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Ask questions and keep asking until you understand. Don't take no - or I don't know - for an answer.

Learning is the first essential skill to achieve any change. Learn to ask more pertinent questions, not only of other people and situations, but also of yourself. Learn how to seek out, hunt down and dig deeper for even better answers. There are rarely right and wrong answers to life's bigger questions, there are only ideas and solutions that are more useful, helpful than the others.

Be highly inquisitive, with a passion to know, to understand, to make sense of things. A mind should always look beneath the surface of things, to challenge what it's being fed.

You've got to take responsibility for your learning. Then the sky's the limit.

Learning how to learn effectively is a key skill in itself, and it doesn't come about by accident. Once you know how you personally learn best, you can take responsibility for what you learn and how fast.

Much of the learning that matters to success in real-world pursuits happens in the absence of formal instruction.

People still talk about 'inherited intelligence,' as if it's an unsurpassable ceiling on someone's performance. This isn't the case, learning how to make best use of your abilities will carry you way beyond any presumed limits.

Learning how to find out for yourself may be the only sort of know-how a person needs. This sounds like common-sense, but there is still far too much emphasis in our education system on teaching and lecturing which may be less and less appropriate now that our demand for knowledge so outstrips the ability of the educational system to provide it.

The best thing someone can do is learn to stand on their own two feet - so if you have a coach or a mentor, he or she mustn't be like a crutch. Their job is to build your confidence in making your own decisions and to help you become independent.

Making lists in a notebook that you carry with you constantly, can be a great way to capture your ideas and feelings. This way, you can consider them more carefully at a better time.

Learning to listen well is a hugely useful skill. And we shouldn't forget that it is very closely connected with bothering to ask people their opinions in the first place, and giving them the feeling that they can tell you everything, uninhibited. Give them the feeling that you won't be shocked or offended and that you can be trusted to handle the truth.

Read and keep reading. Amongst other things, it will help you express yourself.

Voracious reading characterises many accomplished lives. Books introduce you to useful vocabulary, other people's points of view, and unknown worlds of opportunity. As long as you're willing to apply what you learn from them, it's a hard education to beat.

The best students challenge everything around them, but in an articulate and positive way - aiming to improve, not simply criticise.

Don't let school be your only source of education. Make sure you learn just as much, if not more, outside of school.

The more criticism you positively invite, the more opinions you're gutsy enough to ask for, the faster you will learn.

Look at people whose opinions and achievements you respect and try to match their essential qualities.

Make time to build a good relationship with the people you hope to learn from: parents, tutors, and mentors. The more you invest in another person, the more they're likely to invest in you.

Whoever your advisers are, you've got to help them help you. Help them by giving them as much honest information as possible.

Consider what to ask, how to ask it, and of whom. Bear in mind that your friends and the people around you may not know the answers, choose to give limited answers, or give what they think are full or accurate answers, but which aren't. This means you have to hunt out good sources of trustworthy information.

The better your search for insights, ideas and experiences, the better your solutions will be. And the likelihood is that the more you find out about the world, the more your goals will change. It's unlikely you'll find such things on your own doorstep, otherwise you would have already stumbled across them by now. This means that you will have to search in unknown territory, talk to strangers, and interrogate unfamiliar ideas and possibilities.

Learning facts isn't enough, you have to learn the 'doing' skills; how to think, how to plan, and how to put plans into action.

Your family and present friends may not be very helpful when it comes to you designing and making major changes in your life. You can ask of course, and should, but don't expect too much. If they could have helped before now, they probably would have. They've been busy running their own lives. It's going to have to come from you.

You need to learn how to navigate through all the various systems that are out there to inform and advise you. Make yourself an expert scout and explorer.

The speed and quality of your progress in life will be directly related to how inventive you can be about finding new places, new people, and new situations to learn from.